How is it that the last month of pregnancy feels like six months and the first month of baby’s life goes by in a flash?
Micah and Julia are captivated with our little man! Julia is still telling me that she is “so excited” that he is out of my belly:) Her vocabulary brings us daily giggles. I think she is stepping up her comedy to fight the middle child syndrome. This month has been crazy with adjusting to “staying awake a lot” as Matt fondly calls it, Julia and Micah having the stomach flu, getting snowed in, and getting Matt ready to fly to Uganda on Monday.
It has been wonderful to have so much help, and I was ready for the transition from 2 to 3 to rock our world. There are more “mom help”s, more diapers, more mess and less quiet, but in some ways it has been easier than the transition from 1 to 2. Micah and Julia can play together while Elliot is nursing, I have fully embraced the beauty of Netflix, Micah has been a huge help since he is older, and as I am writing this I realized our transition from 1 to 2 was in Uganda and the conveniences of America have made more of a difference than I thought. I love mac-n-cheese and chicken nuggets that are ready in 1-1 1/2 minutes.
We have played with Playdoh A LOT! And stayed in our jammies on these cold winter days. We have survived and that was my goal for this first month!
My biggest advice for new moms… do your nails! I have my super cute new bangs pinned back, haven’t brushed my hair, have no make-up on, most of my clothes don’t fit right, but as I watch myself change the 15th diaper of the day or get the 17th sippycup I fully enjoy the little bit of fun and beauty and I for a second feel like I have it together:)
Now I know why half of my mom friends are selling Jamberry!
Being intentional with baby purchases is the goal. You can have a baby without breaking the bank!
What does the baby NEED to survive?
What do I NEED to survive?
What would make my life easier?
Is it worth the space and time it will take to maintain it?
What few “cute” things will melt my heart and help me enjoy this baby more?
Know “Why” you are buying the things that you buy, not just because everyone seams to have it. And if everyone has it, maybe you can borrow instead of buy.
Diapers– cloth or disposable
-I’m a fan on Thirsties size 1, Econobum, and just bought a few Bum Genius pocket diapers plus diaper inserts and snappis Wipes Dealing with Diapers– Wet bag if you cloth diaper, diaper genie or other sealing trash system
-Having a large wet bag plus a smaller one for the “diaper bag” is best Diaper cream
-Butt paste and Aquaphor are awesome. Get disposable diaper liners if you are using cloth diapers. Sleepers
-This is by far the easiest thing for babies to wear especially if it is cool/cold. Tip– the zippers are easier than snaps.
-I made fun of the ones with an open bottom (like a night gown) with our first but loved them with the second. Onesies
– These are my favorite! Carter’s all the way… Pants Socks Jacket/Cardigan Blankets Car seat Bed -We are a very mobile family so I love just using a pack-n-play then they have the same bed where ever we are. I can move them from our bedroom and back when they are teething, sick, or going through a bad sleeping stage. That isn’t for everyone, but you don’t have to have a crib.
-I also have a co sleeper that I am excited to use with this baby! It is nice to have some kind of bassinet for the first little while. Tip-They are usually easy to borrow from a friend!
-I love the Moby for infants and Boba after that. I have considered the ring sling and know many people that love them.
– I brought mine to Africa when I had to leave other essentials at home. nuf said. Rocking chair or ball
– I used a birthing/ exercise ball and it was just as good if not better for rocking babies to sleep or calming the fussiness. Pacifiers and a clip
– It is nice to have a few different kinds before you stock up to find out what they like Burp clothes
– newborn diaper inserts or Gerber pre-folds are the most absorbent. Thermometer- I have a forehead thermometer in my cart because I am sick of fighting kids to get a temperature.
Baby soap Infant medicines and/or essential oils
– lavender and digestzen are my favorites for the littles Nursing pads Lanolin cream Nursing bras or sports bras if you are breastfeeding Nursing cover Breast pump Bottles Bottle brush Formula if you are formula feeding Formula container for diaper bag
Be on the same page with your husband about a baby budget!
This is the area of finances that I tend to struggle with- kid stuff. Am I the only one?
I can justify it because…
kids “need” clothes and look how cute this is…
it was on sale…
so and so has it…
have you ever seen anything cuter…
Women, this is an area we need help in! We are hiding things from our husbands, being foolish with our money, and disobedient to God. And we brag about it to each other.
I am not saying, “Don’t buy nice things.”
Consider this like any other financial category- make decisions as a couple and live within your means. (I am totally preaching to myself- Zulily it has been real.. we are going to have to stop seeing each other as often)
Enjoy shopping and preparing for baby! Imagine the first time you will hold him/her wearing the little sleeper, but do it with the blessing of your husband and within your budget! Lets be an encouragement to each other instead of encouraging each others foolish spending.
Just don’t… Is that what you are thinking? Well we live in Uganda and we wanted to come home to have this baby.
– Ask around about kid friendly airlines. We like United, British Airways, and have heard great things about Emirates. We haven’t liked Brussels with little kids. (After this last flight I would rather pay more for a flight on British Airways than pay for an upgrade to economy plus… the flight attendants really do make a difference on a long flight!) -Choose the most direct flights with the least amount of total travel time. This was actually the cheapest option for us this time, but I would have paid extra to cut out two layovers, hours of layover time, and 8+ hours of total travel.
-Check on their rules for flying while pregnant. Airlines all differ on how late they will let you fly. Usually after 28 weeks you will need a doctors note. (They gave us a hard time at the Entebbe airport because my note said “fit to travel” not “fit to fly”)
Before you leave
Get in touch with the airline!
-We have one lap child so we can sit in the bulk head on international flights, but I had to request it. -They have children’s meals that will come out first so you can feed the kids before you eat and don’t have to deal with all of the trays at once. You also have to request a child’s meal! The lap child won’t get a meal.
– Get a note from a doctor
– Sign up for reward miles
*Talk up going on an airplane to your kids! Watch an airplane movie. Look for airplanes in the sky. (Micah got to sit in the cockpit of a small plane at MAF the day we left and he could hardly contain his excitement!)
* If you are flying internationally call your credit card company and let them know.
Packing for mama
– Don’t pack too much carry on luggage! I would rather leave the book that I probably won’t read anyway so that I don’t have to deal with it.
-Chapstick and lotion for the dry airplane air
-extra pair of clothes
Packing for toddlers
– Suckers (DumDums) for take off and landing.. and fussing… and boredom
– Other snacks
– Sippy cups- just have the flight attendant pour in them
– Kid Headphones
– Blanket or other important sleeping things
– Small toys (get something new)
– stickers, color wonder, or other easy things to do on a wobbly tray
– Ipad, Iphone, or other electronic device- get a new game, movie, or puzzle
– Melatonin, Benadryl, Tylenol or other medicine you might need.
– Extra clothes- seriously don’t forget this!
-Socks- some airport playgrounds require them
-Again, try not to over pack!
Leave at home or check
-Unless you have a direct flight, but even then, leave the stroller. Baby carriers like Boba/Ergo make it much easier to get around.
-Excess- don’t pack too much! Our kids are so interested in movies, people, and the airplane that they hardly play with toys or other activities.
– Support hose
– Comfy but easy to remove shoes
– Comfy bra
– Belly Band
– Our flights leave at night or first thing in the morning so we always start off in PJs
– Pull ups as long as they will let you- turbulence, take off and landing, and lines, make quick bathroom trips difficult
– They shouldn’t have to take their shoes off so put them in shoes that won’t fall off and get lost
The day of
*Drink tons of water! – I didn’t have nightmares that I would go into labor onboard… I had them that I couldn’t breathe because it was SO dry!
Make sure you have:
– Doctors note
– Birth certificate for toddlers if you don’t have a passport (for flying within the U.S.)
– Left any pocket knives or other items you can’t take on a plane out of your bags (Dads!)
Put all electronics in the same bag
Put all liquids in one bag and in a zip lock bag
You can bring baby food, milk, water for formula, and juice for toddlers at most airports but put them all in the same place
Getting to your gate
– Make sure you leave enough time for mama and toddlers. It is nice to let them run around for a few minutes before the flight and everyone will need to go to the bathroom and who knows how long security will take.
– Don’t worry if your kids are loud in the security line. It can get you moved to the front if they see you have kids! It worked again this time:)
– Smile- I might have forgotten this one until we were actually on the plane…
– Have dad- Put all of the electronics in separate containers, and take care of the carry-ons if possible
– Have mom- push the kids through the crazy line with gloved people staring at them.
– Take a deep breath when you get through security!!! Seriously sit there for a minute don’t run to your gate unless you are late. Go to the bathroom.
Getting off the ground
– If you have a lap child, ask for a baby cot right away if you want one. They don’t usually have enough on board.
– Make friends with a flight attendant.
– Get a sucker (or two) and something to play with out for the kids during take off.
– Walk around at least every hour and drink plenty of water and skip the soda. (I have heard that airplanes are more dry than the desert… thus the nightmares)
– If your kids cry, it is probably bothering you more than the other people on the plane. On our last flight our stewardess said to me, “That was yours crying a while ago wasn’t it? I’m so proud of you for not freaking out. People understand that babies cry it just makes it worse when parents stress out.”
– Don’t be afraid to ask if you need anything.
– Get your stuff together and get off the plane as quickly as possible
What if you go into labor on board? Your child could get free travel for life!
Your flight might land sooner than expected unless you are over unsafe airspace or the ocean.
Very few babies are born on board don’t worry
We are getting so excited to meet our little boy! With Micah I was so excited to do everything baby and started before my baby bump was even visible. With Julia we were moving to a new country so I bought everything before the third trimester but had no idea what to expect, honestly, until I was in labor.
I have learned so much with each pregnancy, birth, and baby so I thought I’d do a series on the home stretch of pregnancy.
I remember feeling sad just days after Micah was born because he was no longer in my belly. Don’t get me wrong, I was thrilled to hold him in my arms but I felt like I wished away a lot of my pregnancy. It was a great lesson for me to enjoy the moments as they come which can be very difficult when you can’t sleep and it hurts to bend over. I hope I can offer some encouragement (and good reminders for myself) in enjoying the last trimester of pregnancy.
Checklist to enjoy your third trimester:
– Pray for baby
– Pick baby name(s)
– Are you taking a trip? make sure you are as safe and comfortable as possible
– Eat well, even if you don’t feel like it
– Get some exercise
– Buy baby stuff
– Buy your older children something new to keep them entertained while you rest. *we just gave our kids a train set as an early Christmas present. It is my ticket to resting on the couch or getting dinner made!
– Confront your birthing fears
– Start preparing older siblings-7 reasons I let my son play with dolls
– Read up on taking care of baby- there is always new stuff and it is amazing how fast you forget
– Think about what kind of parent you want to be don’t be afraid to change your “parenting style”
– Learn about common procedures for both you and baby in the hospital
– Research the hospital, take a class, or take a tour of the Labor and Delivery Unit
– Talk and pray with your spouse about the big decisions you get to make
– Make a birth plan
– Register at the hospital (In Uganda put down a payment)
– Start a project to keep you occupied (for instance a blog series on the third trimester of pregnancy!)
– Set up a place for baby to sleep or an entire nursery
– Pack a hospital bag
– Get a pedicure with a friend
-Take pregnancy photos
– Meet up with your Doula
– Know how or install the car seat
– Stock up on things you will need after baby is born to avoid the stores for a while with a newborn
– Go on a babymoon!
– Get your body ready for delivery with stretches, rest, and strengthening exercises
– Make a plan for when Labor starts: who will stay with older kids, when will you go to the hospital, who do you want with you…
– Go on a date with your older kids
One of my favorite things I have picked for each of our children was a lullaby. It has been almost, if not more, fun than picking their names. It is a song I sing to them as I put them to sleep and they start associating the song with sleepy eyes. There were a few months with Julia that I barely made it through the first verse and she would be out! We haven’t decided for sure on a name for this baby but I have his lullaby- Great is Thy Faithfulness.
Great Is Thy Faithfulness
Thomas Chisholm – 1925
Great Is Thy faithfulness, O God my Father!
There is no shadow of turning with Thee;
Though changest not, Thy compassions, they fail not
As Thou hast been Thou forever wilt be.
Great Is Thy faithfulness,
Great Is Thy faithfulness,
Morning by morning new mercies I see;
All I have needed Thy hand hath provided
Great is Thy Faithfulness, Lord unto me!
Summer and winter, and springtime and harvest,
Sun, moon, and stars in their courses above,
Join with all nature in manifold witness
To Thy great faithfulness, mercy, and love.
Pardon for Sin and a peace that endureth,
Thine own dear presence to cheer and to guide,
Strength for today and bright hope for tomorrow
Blessings all mine, with ten thousand beside!
What are some other things you have done to enjoy the last weeks before meeting your little one? I’d love to add to the list!
Every child, every pregnancy, since life begins at conception, is a blessing from God and I am beyond thankful for this boy growing inside of me. God I pray for every woman who desperately wants a child or woman who begs you for a boy or girl because of social pressure. Grant them the desires of their heart, but if Your answer is “no” like it sometimes is, I pray that Your faithfulness would be a comfort and that You would be the greatest desire of all of our hearts.
I often get the question: What is it like to be pregnant in Uganda? Well let me tell you some of the precious blessings and the little things I could do with out. And the Ugandan women that do it everyday.
Most Ugandans are known for not talking about pregnancy. Women often won’t tell their husbands let alone friends f
…The baby boy growing in my belly and our new home.
20 Weeks… Since this is not my first pregnancy I know better than to think that this will feel like half way, but 20 is half of 40 so there you have it, half way. This is the best part of pregnancy where you can feel little rolls and kicks but it doesn’t feel like you are carrying around a bowling ball that keeps trying to suffocate you and break your ribs all at the same time. I’m just praying this little man comes before 42 weeks like his sister.
We don’t have a name picked out for our little man and we are no longer taking suggestions since Micah came up with Evil… seriously I didn’t even know he knew that word. He must not know what it means because he is already so excited to have a brother. Almost everyday I hear, “After Christmas, then my baby brother will come out.” We do have a place of birth picked out (praying everything goes well). In 12 weeks the kids and I will be on a plane for the USA and Matt will be following just before Christmas.
And here are a few pictures from our new house which is also halfway there. So more pictures to follow, but for now here are two of my favorite places.
Matt thought I was crazy at first to want this table in our living room, but the only time we actually sit quietly and enjoy the living room is in the morning with our coffee, Bibles, and journals and we are loving all of the space. You can just barely see Lake Victoria out our window.
The play area is not in the living room for once. We have had so much fun playing with legos the last few days and leaving them out to come back to without tripping over them in the living room. The kids don’t care where their toys are, they are just happy to have them back and to be getting into a routine.
“Tis grace has brought me safe thus far, and grace will lead me home.”
– From what is becoming one of my favorite verses of Amazing Grace.
Horne baby #3 is on the way!
Micah is sure the baby is in his belly too. And wants to name the baby Minnie Mouse
Julia is pretty sure baby and belly button are the same thing since she always kisses my belly button when following Micah in kissing the baby.
We are all excited to meet the little peanut at the end of January who are we kidding Julia was two weeks late it will most likely be February.
We are a till undecided about if this baby will be born in Kampala or Wyoming, but are trusting God in making that decision. We are so thankful for the great gift that children are to us from Him.
We got to see our baby is week at 17 weeks. There is an awesome 3D ultrasound machine in Kampala.
Mostly we are excited that everything looks fine, but we also found out if our predictions were right.
And it is a BOY!!!
Julia screamed most of the way from the ultrasound to staff retreat, we thought it was just her hatred of the car but maybe she knows she is about to be outnumbered:)